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It’s never felt so good! I went to a new salon that specialises in afro hair. He’s from Thailand, he’s studied afro hair and he’s been doing it for 25 years. He gave me loads of advice on how to wash it (once a week with shampoo and conditioner then with water and conditioner or a treatment mid week) and the best products to use (no silicone or SLS aka palm oil which I already knew and do not use, and to use moisturising hair crème every day). I’m sharing this because I’ve had some bad experiences when it comes to hair. My hair’s thick and naturally curly but when I straighten it it’s thin and it goes dead straight, so a lot of the time I’ve just gone to “regular” hair salons to get it done. But on 2 occasions at different salons I was made to feel like my hair was too much effort to deal with, like overtly and in a really nasty way. So when I got my hair done the other day I was pleasantly surprised, not just by the quality of the service I received but how knowledgable he was about afro hair and how genuinely passionate he was about it. He really takes pride in his work, and so he should because he did an amazing job. When we were chatting I told him about my bad experiences and how I didn’t understand why a lot of salons don’t do afro hair, he told me that when people study hair at college, afro hair isn’t a mandatory part of the course, it’s optional. He said most people don’t want to do it because it’s “too much effort for them” and “too much of a challenge”. Maybe if it was made to be a mandatory part of the course and not optional then it wouldn’t appear to be such a challenge for people. It’s these subtle but not so subtle things that make black people feel excluded from society and it just further reinforces the idea that black people are the ‘other’, and it only serves to both create and perpetuate divisions. Now do people still wanna deny white preference (white privilege) and black exclusion? If so then you must either be suffering from white fragility or black self hatred rooted in past trauma. That’s a rhetorical question by the way so there’s no need to respond. Even if you do, you’re wasting your time because 1) I won’t see it and 2) I’ve just shot down your argument with facts in a few simple sentences. I’ve got another story from last year that backs up white fragility, but I’d need to have someone’s permission first before I shared it.

It was the full moon in Capricorn on the 4th/5th, extremely potent, especially for me because my sign is ruled by the moon. I didn’t even know about it until yesterday. Insomnia, overthinking and the culmination of recent events and the seeds that I planted 6 months ago. I’m admiring what I’ve created and the progress I’ve made, and I’m practising acceptance and waiting to see what happens next before I take action. I also saw a space craft fly over my flat yesterday while I was lying on the sofa, it wasn’t a drone because it was spinning in a coordinated and synchronized way and there was a light flashing underneath it. I had to put my glasses on to get a good look at it but I saw it clear as day. It was black and sort of an oval yet rectangular shape with a diagonal slant at the front (or back).